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• August 24, 2025

Love By Kundan Kumar

(Mindfulness #02 )

(By Kundan Kumar)

(Mindfulness # 02)

(Few words to the readers — This article is written on the subject matter of mindfulness. So this article is not only just to read but to enrich one’s habit by mindfulness techniques)

Start 

 Love is a matter of general ignorance. This means that  people generally think that they know - what is love? But  they really do not know it; they really do not understand - what is love? 

People generally know love as emotion not as quality.

Before we go further about love, it is worth giving some thoughts to emotion -

1. Definition of emotion -

Emotion is a reflection of the mind in the body.

So emotion is something happening inside the human mind.

2. Pair occurrence of emotion - 

Emotions happen in opposite pairs - positive & negative. But the two can not exist in our mind simultaneously. Love & hate, happiness & sadness, anger & calm (equanimity), praise & jealousy etc are paired emotions. They can not coexist. 

For example - If there is love in mind, hate can not exist; if one is happy at some moment,he can not be sad at that moment.

3. Nature of emotion - it is not permanent -

Emotions are generated in mind at some point of time due to some trigger and then fade away gradually. So a person can not remain in a certain emotion all the time. 

So, emotions are  appearing and disappearing phenomena happening inside the human mind.

So, emotions are temporary happenings inside the human mind.

For example, a person suddenly becomes angry at the trigger of some stimulus. But after some time he becomes cool and calm.

4. Origin of emotion - Emotions are not innate -

There is no emotion inside its mind when a child takes birth. A newborn does not show any emotion like anger, sadness, hate, or the like. 

As a human grows, he catches various types of emotions during the course of life and his nature is taking shape gradually and accordingly.

So emotions and the intensity of the emotions collected in the mind of a human depend largely on the worldly conditions he lives during the course of his life.

So emotions are not innate.

Now coming to the concept of love - love is perceived by us in 02 ways -

1. Love as emotion 

        and 

2. love as quality

Love as emotion:

Most of the people know love as emotion.

Based on the detail of emotion explained above, love as emotion can be perceived as -.

1. Love as emotion carries with it the opposite (negative) emotions like hate, cruelty etc.

When a person is in action with love as emotion, he remains sometimes under the influence of  love and sometimes under the influence of  hate.

2. When love happens to be an emotion, love gets generated as an emotion at a certain point of time in the mind of a person and then disappears slowly.

So love as emotion is a temporary happening inside the mind.

3. As emotion is not innate, love as emotion is also not innate. So love as emotion is not natural but adopted or accumulated inside the mind during the course of life.

And as the love as emotion is not natural, it is not pure. There are impurities of other opposite negative emotions with this type of love.

Knowing love as emotion is a poor and incomplete understanding. 

Love as emotion is not real love.

Love as quality: (quality of the human being)

Love as quality is love in a real sense. 

Love as quality is pure love.

Knowing love as quality is the real understanding; in fact,  it is  a great understanding. 

This article is all about understanding love as quality.

(Note - Here onward, whenever I write love, it should be taken as love as quality)

Features of pure love:

1. Love is divine. Love is innate. Love is natural.

All human beings are born with this divine gift, the love. 

Love is innate and so it is divine; it is natural.

This is the reason that even a newborn recognises the feeling of love. 

Love is the most basic identity of the human being.

2. Love is not an emotion but a quality. And so it is a permanent feature of all human beings.

Unlike emotions (which is an appearing and disappearing phenomena inside the mind of any human being), quality remains there all the time. 

So is for the love (as quality) which is always there inside all human beings; it is a permanent thing inside our mind; it is the eternal feature of all human beings.  

It is another matter that in the course of our life negative thoughts and emotions create a shadow over love. 

3. Love is not conditional.

You do not require any reason or purpose or condition to love. You just love.

you love naturally. 

you love unconditionally - without any self interest, without bias, without prejudices, without discrimination.

You are conditioned by birth by God to radiate love. 

4. Love is not selective.

It is not like - one loves someone and hates someone. Love is not selective. 

If a mother loves her child and hates another's child (it happens quite often when two children quarrel), it is a selective process. It is not love.

With pure love, you love (unconditionally) anyone and everyone - your family, relatives, friends, any person you meet, even the one you do not know or even someone who is not friendly with you.

With love there is no place for any bad relationship because with love there is no place of any bitterness for anyone.

This concept is so simple but  it has the divine power to infuse love in any relationship.

Let us try this concept to improve relationships.

5. Love is absolute purity.

Love is innate; It is there inside us since our birth.

So it is absolutely natural; It is the most basic.

Love is quality not emotion; so it does not carry the negative opposites like hate, bitterness etc.

Hence, love is absolute purity.

6. Love is a purifier.

Love is absolute purity.

So when someone is under the influence of love, love purifies his mind from all mind pollutants like negative thoughts and negative emotions.  

With a clean mind we feel light and delight.

7. Love is not a process but a condition of the mind.

Kissing, hugging, touching etc are processes of expressing love but these are not love until it is done with pure love. 

Man with love radiates the fragrance of love even without any action or process and he attracts anybody naturally. 

8. Love carries with it so many other noble qualities.

Love comes along with so many other noble qualities like - respect, forgiveness, acceptance, humility and gratitude etc.

Whenever you are under the holy effect of love -

You feel like respecting others naturally.

The fragrance of forgiveness will come out naturally from you.

You accept everyone unconditionally as they are.

You are naturally humble with humility and gratitude.

Love beautifies the mind with noble qualities.

9. Love is a responsibility

God has made this universe. And after the formation of the universe, it became necessary to run the universe. 

Probably to run the universe, God has filled love inside all human beings so that everybody loves each other and lives together in this great family, the universe. 

So it becomes our responsibility to love anyone and everyone naturally and unconditionally.

10. Love is the doorway to spirituality.

Love is divine; love is absolute purity. Love purifies and beautifies our mind and our heart.

Love brings peace and pleasure.

Spirituality is attaining absolute purity, absolute peace and absolute pleasure. 

So, love is the doorway to spirituality. 

Imaging yourself under pure love.

• Imaging yourself into pure love is in fact living your most basic identity.

• There are no impurities and negativities in your mind like hate, bitterness, anger etc. 

• Your mind is absolutely clean and pure. 

• Your mind and your heart feel light delight.

• You radiate love all around you.

• You feel the power to accept everyone unconditionally.

• You are shining with the soft feeling of forgiveness and humility.

              This is the feeling of spirituality.

Mindfulness aspects of the concept of love -

The concept of mindfulness targets a mind clean from all mind pollutants - impurities, negativities and complexities. 

Love (as quality) also targets to clean the human mind from all mind pollutants.

Now there are some relevant questions -

Questions -

Love (as quality) appears to be a hypothetical concept ?

How can a person love unconditionally and unselectively ?

How can a person remain/live under the influence of such pure and divine love with his mind totally cleaned from any mind pollutants ?  

Answer is -

Yes, it is true that it is not possible to remain always under the influence of pure love and love unconditionally and unselectively.

This is because in the course of our life we have accumulated so many mind pollutants in the form of negative thoughts, negative emotions and complexities. 

However, technically it is definitely possible to live under the influence of pure and divine love as we are born with this noble quality.

We can live and if we live even some moments under the influence of pure and divine love it is a wonderful experience.

Take away summary -

People generally know love as emotion not as quality and this is a wrong understanding.

Love is not an emotion but the divine and noble quality of all human beings.

Love is innate; love is divine; love is natural; love is pure.

Love is the most basic identity of the human being.

In the course of our life, we gather mind pollutants which shadow over pure love. And so it becomes difficult to live under the influence of pure love.

However, it is technically and definitely  possible to live life under the influence of pure divine love because we are born with this divine quality, the love.

Living even a few moments under the influence of pure love is a wonderful experience.

Pure love is a purifier. It purifies the mind, relationships and friendships.

Living with pure love we can find solutions to many problems related to mind, relationship and friendship.

(Note - A audio/video on guided mindfulness meditation of love is also attached. Going by this audio/video, one can experience the feeling of living with pure love.)